The Relational Element

   We have suggested that an effective way to serve as a “spiritual guide” in academe would be to open to healthy relationships and conversations with your colleagues.  In the course of typical activities and duties there are times when those conversations touch on things of a personal nature or on matters that pertain to world-view and values.  

Portrait of Albert d’ Anvers

Pierre-August Renoir; Getty Museum

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    In that context we think it appropriate to listen to our colleagues and understand their positions (and use that to motivate a deeper understanding for ourselves).  In some of those conversations you may be asked for your opinion and values which may lead to a discussion of world-view and values.  

    Depending on your reading of the context of the situation, the sort of conversation that has been entered into, the sort of informal agreement that may have arisen in the conversation about the boundaries of that interchange it may be appropriate to ask further questions.  Or possibly to directly discuss or entertain a dialogue on spiritual values and perspectives.  

    Again, depending on your reading of the situation (see our discussion on “locaters” under the communication tab) you may be able to get a sense of where your colleague is in her spiritual odyssey..some to be sure will not consider their journey to have much by way of spiritual.  But some might and some might show indications of being open to further discussion or even indications of spiritual interest and openness.  

    Ideally it would be wonderful if they were to ask you for your opinion or guidance, but in less ideal conditions it still might be socially appropriate to offer advice.

    But at this point we offer some caveats.  

    We believe it is extremely important to enter into these situations with a sincere desire to help, to avoid manipulation or engage in practices that are likely to be perceived as unethical.  For example, forms of “bait and switch” tactics (of which there might be benign and malignant forms) need to be adroitly navigated.  See the tab on “social concerns” where this perception may raise its ugly head.  See especially how this was handled in the field-test case on human trafficking on that tab in particular. 

    We also want to encourage that these conversation are to be understood as privileged and private and to be handled with great discretion.

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